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When I was 15! – LinkedIN

LinkedIn celebrated its 15th anniversary… Congrats…

They requested people write what they dreamed, thought about when they were 15.

I shared these thoughts!

 

#LinkedIn

#WhenIWas15

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The Ambassador of Autism Tourism!

My daughter wants to travel. She wishes to discover the world. She says all the time, you went to China and you did not take me… not fair!!

We have read posts about families raising children, teens and adults on the autism spectrum who have succeeded planning trips. Yes, even with autism on board they were capable of enjoying a vacation. Above all, not allowing the diagnosis control the dynamics.

Here is our effort. We must share what we are learning and enjoying.

I am aware not everyone can do what we do, how we do it. The purpose here is not to compare since we have something to learn from all of you, I firmly believe that. The purpose is to share how we accept the awesome and the challenges of our day to day. Above all, how we seek quality of life.

Enjoy the latest posts…

Ambassador of Autism Tourism

Real Practices, Solutions

Practical Advice – What works for us

NYC Here we come!

Conquering NYC and Autism

Visiting the American Museum of Natural History

How Autism Friendly can NYC be?

Emily = Dakota = NYC = UN

Is Tampa an autism friendly city?

 

What are the future. dream locations she wishes to visit? Read this:  Art Inspires the Ambassador

She loves to draw. She is very original. She has not been to these places. She may have seen pictures of these places. It is her interpretation.

Questions, suggestions? Email:  autismhappykingdom@gmail.com

 

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Interview with The Teen Magazine

So thankful for the opportunity.

Read here — Interview with The Teen Magazine –

An eye opener because my words in some circles of the autism world have caused controversy.

We are a very divided community for many reasons. I do not agree with the divisiveness and my messages will never have the intention to divide.

I am very clear that our experience is very particular. The results  and our experience are all based on the initial message received when Thomais was diagnosed.

One of the main reasons we are divided is because I received a very positive message.

Plus, the first time I ever heard about autism around 1998 – it was an eye opener.

I was in front of Temple Grandin (at a Poultry Processing industry trade show in Atlanta), listening to her passion and dedication seeking ways to make the slaughtering process more humane.

I was told I’d meet her and she had autism.

I said: “What is that”.

They said… “wait and see”…

All I saw was a more than capable individual, brilliant, being a professional.

And that was my first impression.

Years passed and it is now 2018 – I have a daughter on the autism spectrum.

I was told in June 2011, when she turned 3, that autism is medical.  Two developmental pediatricians told me I needed to address the medical issues and my daughter will come back.

I know many families are not being told the same — they are being told that’s how their child is going to be and not lead a productive life or they’ll never say I love you or they will have to be institutionalized.

I must note, prior to the diagnosis – Thomais was developing like any other child, growing, smiling, eye contact, repeating everything in 3 languages. That changed drastically December 2010.

I am sharing our story because our message is a valid one. I am not the only one receiving the same message.

This was Thomais’ reality April 2012… one of many behavior crisis’ that could last 2 hours.

Lo and behold… After many steps, sacrifices, sleepless nights and the support of many… Thomais has autism but she no longer lives a life where the diagnosis controls the day to day. She is a girl in every sense of the word. She is fun. She is bossy. She expresses her emotions. She is learning. She is discovering the good and the tough.

April 2018 – Latest video — I have autism… Accept me!

 Also, I worked in three middle schools and I interact with countless families whose children have every single characteristic of the spectrum.  I have been in both circumstances — a place where my child who was sick all the time, who could not function socially, I wondered why is this happening, how long will this last…
and a place where my child is living life, learning how to function socially and we can say, we seek quality of life.
Magic is not at play here.
Questions? Just contact me – autismhappykingdom@gmail.com

I insist… Divided we shall not remain…

What advice do you have for families surviving autism?
1. Go through mourning, punch a wall or stomp your feet. Stop mourning!
2. Talk to others who are going through the same. Do an initial comparison of what your child can or cannot do.
3. Read a lot, so much research is available. It takes time, so you must have to make the time. The more you read, the easier it can be to decided which path to follow.
4. Ask yourself: Do I love my child? Why do I love my child? How can love guide this process? How can I accept this new reality?
5. Create your tribe, yes, that group of people or that person you can go to and vent. Stay away from negative thinkers or those who do not know a bit about your reality.
6. Your days should become a play session. Make your child laugh. Allow your child to make you laugh.
7. Be patient– the biggest test ever!
8. Decide if you want to be a parent or an individual. If you can’t be a parent, em-brace what it means and do not wait to seek help as soon as possible.
9. Own every experience with your child (or children). Do not blame others, make a plan for every outing and be flexible!
By: Yadira V. Calderón, Autism: The Happy Kingdom

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I HAVE AUTISM! ACCEPT ME…

Thomais has autism. She can now speak – after a massive regression in Dec. 2010.

As time passes, her prowess with language and body expressions is obvious and beyond enjoyable. At the same time, her message is clear, concise and beyond real.

I HAVE AUTISM… ACCEPT ME!

Thomais wants to be acknowledged, accepted, understood, respected – she wants to belong.#Autism can present challenges. The rest of the world needs to hear from those living it, to better understand what it can be about.Find out more about Thomais here: www.autismhappykingdom.com#twominutewonderclip

Posted by Autism: The Happy Kingdom on Thursday, April 12, 2018

 

She wants to be acknowledged, accepted, understood, respected – she wants to belong. #Autism can present challenges. The rest of the world needs to hear from those living it, to better understand what it can be about.

This was Thomais’ reality in 2012… behavior crisis that could last 2 hours… https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vfcRx… It is no longer the case… Now we celebrate her!

Find out more about Thomais here: www.autismhappykingdom.com

#twominutewonderclip

NOTE: I am aware not every family can have their child communicate the way Thomais does. We have been there. We survived the not knowing or understanding. May Thomais’s words help those around you understand what your child/teen/adult could be experiencing.

 

 

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SAY IT WITH ME – WE WANT ACTION NOT #AWARENESS

Last April I wrote this… AUTISM REALITIES

It saddens me to confirm, progress is not always a reality in many households.

Parents are being told to light it up blue, to pay for walks or to use a puzzle piece to show awareness towards autism.

These meaningless symbols do not represent actual needs. These meaningless symbols do not create opportunity to enjoy quality of life. These meaningless symbols keep parents in a circle of false hope as autism continues to challenge everyone’s existence.

Autism is not easy. Autism is complicated. Not everyone understands autism.

Economics, politics, science, philosophy and all the forces of the universe have us in this conundrum and we the parents do what we can to the best of our abilities.

My thoughts this year:

We want action NOT #awareness
We need #mediainclusion
We need real options, steps to follow to seek quality of life…

Don’t dare highlight blue lights in April when…

A parent tried to kill her child with #autism
A teacher verbally abuses a student
School districts violate federal law
Law enforcement is not 100% trained
Bus drivers and teacher assistants rape girls
30% of marriages end separated or divorced
Moms have #PTSD and #Depression due to lack of support from doctors/therapists/academia
Academia is behind in thought process and suggestions how to live/handle/manage the diagnosis

Doctors diagnosing still tell parents there is no hope, this is how your child is going to be and will end up in an institution
Ignorance and fear reign rampant

Insurance companies limit or do not cover the wide array of therapies that can help achieve quality of life

Teachers to be do not receive appropriate training prior to working with our kids!

Individuals with severe autism are poorly served by the organizations claiming to support their needs
Poverty reduces the possibility to seek quality of life – parents are not given the opportunity to learn about self-entrepeneurship or become acquainted with their rights
Per the CDC – now, 1 in 36 kids have developmental disabilities
and tons more…

Talk to my daughter and I, we have tons more to share… We do not demand a perfect world. We simply want things to improve and we are ready and willing to be a part of the process.

 

THE EYE (12/2017) by Thomais V. Moshopoulos

This creation is the result of a question asked to my daughter – now that she can talk —

I asked: “What do you see?”

She answered: “I used to see rainbows”

I asked: “Do you still see rainbows?”

She answered: “Not anymore”

I asked her to draw what she saw and this is the result.

 

Read:  THOMAIS MEDIA CHALLENGE