A diagnosis of autism carries the stigma that individuals in the spectrum are not capable of showing empathy or understanding emotions.

But even in the depth of a massive regression at 2.5yrs old, I could find those moments where my child demonstrated an understanding of emotions — very basic for her age yet it happened.

Now at 8.5 yrs, Thomais is in full grasp of emotions, what they mean, how to handle them. The curiosity to understand others and their existence is intense.

One year ago, she saw homeless people and immediately she asked why were they living/sleeping on the street. I kept the explanation basic and reminded her, just because they don’t have a home does not mean we can’t be considerate.

For months, I heard about the experiences, the homeless, more questions. I kept the message consistent.

Christmas time is here and as she continues to ask about various topics, homelessness included, I let her know we could visit a shelter that helps those who need the support.

She agreed and asked: “but what do they need, we must bring something.”

I said correct, they need a lot of what you have.

She said toys, I said No. Just the basics like shampoo, toothpaste, deodorant, etc.

It was agreed her funds would be used to purchase the goods.

I contacted various reporters and Mark Wilson from FOX 13 News recommended we visit Homeless Empowerment Program (HEP) in Clearwater.

Lo and behold our tour took place. We met the founder, Barb Green and our host Ashley Lowery, Director Comm and Devt.

Thomais was extremely curious. The kitchen/dining hall and the Thrift Store were her favorite places.

We gave words of support to each other.

I thanked them for the opportunity to allow my child to learn about aspects of life she is not exposed to — yet, at her young age, she has already learned about rejection based on her behaviors and reactions. I reminded them that as a parent, I refuse to have her grow up rejecting others because they look or behave different.

They thanked me for being proactive and willing to do things differently.

Another seed has been planted. It will be watered, conditioned, treated with more love. She will let us know in due time what the fruit will be and how she’ll share it.

NOTES:

HEP is a self-sustained community – Families, Veterans, Singles – all benefit from their services. Doctors, nurses, dentists, Professionals in various fields can volunteer. Donations are needed (details in the website).
We’ll return end of January – help in the dining hall! Join us!!
I am a parent. I trust my instinct. My past experiences – good and bad – and wonderful people around us guide most of the decisions I make with my daughter.